'I've put a limit of £100 each on my children's Christmas presents - but I'm not mean'

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A mum who spends just a £100 budget on each child's Christmas present says she is "standing by her own values" despite pressure from others.

Samantha Mary, 35, implemented her budget for presents and stocking fillers last Christmas for her two-year-old son Jack and 10-year-old step-daughter, Isabella.

After the success of last year, Samantha has decided to do it again - valuing "memories over the money spent."

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She spends £20 on stocking presents – filling them with items including socks, gel pens, and bath bombs – and £80 on main presents.

Samantha Mary and her husband Richard with Jack and IsabellaSamantha Mary and her husband Richard with Jack and Isabella
Samantha Mary and her husband Richard with Jack and Isabella | Samantha Mary / SWNS

This year she bought her Jack a London bus toy set alongside a toy coffee machine and for Isabella a bubble tea set and crochet kit.

The mum - who has shared videos about her decision on TikTok - says the budget is a "fair and reasonable amount."

Samantha, a primary school teacher from Shoreham-by-Sea, West Sussex, said: "It's the same values that we had last year. We feel it's a fair and reasonable amount of money to spend and the kids were happy with what they got last year. I think you know your kids the best and I knew they would be happy with what they've got.

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"I think it's easy to make judgements and you know yours better than anyone else. It definitely reaffirmed that we didn't need to be spending significantly more. I'd never let comments from other people influence what I do as a parent.

"I also did a video talking about the average spend on a child in the UK and I think it was around £470 - I asked people to comment what they spend and that was quite enlightening and shocking. Some people under that and a lot quite a bit over."

Initially, Samantha and her husband Richard, 41, decided to adopt the £100 budget to be more conscious of their spending - previously around £150 to £200.

But after the success of last year, they now plan to stick to it.

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Samantha said: "The magic of Christmas for us is not on the money spent, it's the memories. I think it's about standing by your own values and I think a lot of people do feel the pressure because of others. I think a lot of people have the misconception that their child will hear about what others have got and feel they have to match it.

"But as a primary school teacher I don't think that's the case - I don't think a lot of children go in comparing. There's also an awful lot of comments on my TikTok this year saying that their kids have asked for a lot of simplistic things. It's not about what they've got often, it's about the anticipation of Santa arriving and what they've got. I think if you ask any child what they got for Christmas last year, I think a lot would struggle to tell you."

Samantha Mary's presents for one of her children - sticking to a budget of £100. Photo released December 6 2024. A mum who spends just a £100 budget on each child's Christmas present says she is "standing by her own values" despite pressure from others. Samantha Mary, 35, implemented her budget for presents and stocking fillers last Christmas for her two-year-old son Jack and 10-year-old step-daughter, Isabella. After the success of last year, Samantha has decided to do it again - valuing "memories over the money spent." She spends £20 on stocking presents – filling them with items including socks, gel pens, and bath bombs – and £80 on main presents.Samantha Mary's presents for one of her children - sticking to a budget of £100. Photo released December 6 2024. A mum who spends just a £100 budget on each child's Christmas present says she is "standing by her own values" despite pressure from others. Samantha Mary, 35, implemented her budget for presents and stocking fillers last Christmas for her two-year-old son Jack and 10-year-old step-daughter, Isabella. After the success of last year, Samantha has decided to do it again - valuing "memories over the money spent." She spends £20 on stocking presents – filling them with items including socks, gel pens, and bath bombs – and £80 on main presents.
Samantha Mary's presents for one of her children - sticking to a budget of £100. Photo released December 6 2024. A mum who spends just a £100 budget on each child's Christmas present says she is "standing by her own values" despite pressure from others. Samantha Mary, 35, implemented her budget for presents and stocking fillers last Christmas for her two-year-old son Jack and 10-year-old step-daughter, Isabella. After the success of last year, Samantha has decided to do it again - valuing "memories over the money spent." She spends £20 on stocking presents – filling them with items including socks, gel pens, and bath bombs – and £80 on main presents. | Samantha Mary / SWNS

For Jack's stocking, she bought socks, a bubble bath pack, gingerbread, bath bombs, chocolate and some squidgy pets.

For her step-daughter, Isabella, she bought socks, gel pens, a pencil case, bows, chocolate and some gingerbread.

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For their main presents – Samantha bought a bubble tea set, a crochet kit, toy pillows, slippers, pyjamas, a pic'n'mix set and a loom-band bracelet set.

She found her son a second-hand London bus toy that he wanted, a toy boat and fairground game, pyjamas, toys for his kitchen set, toy pillows and Thomas the Tank Engine trains.

She said: "One thing that I've done this year is I've got some second-hand bits for my son. He wanted a London Bus toy and I found a huge bundle of this particular brand of toy on Facebook marketplace. So I bought that bundle, kept the toys I wanted and resold the ones I didn't - I think ended up paying just £5 for the toy because of that. Being I'm a step-mum a lot of the criticism I get is whether I've treated them equally - which I always do."

To cut costs further, Samantha and her family avoid other Christmas-related "cost-heavy" traditions - though she is keen to state that everyone should do what "makes them happy" and doesn't judge.

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She said: "Christmas December Boxes - which are boxes that parents put together for their kids with toys and stuff for the kids to do throughout December. We don't do these - there are a lot more cost-heavy traditions now. We stick with the traditional chocolate advent calendar."

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